You are you

 So I follow a well known blog who has a Facebook  parent page. 

I don’t know why I follow because many a day I sit and yell at the people commenting. 

Not really, because I don’t respond in writing to them, but I usually yell to myself or to my husband (who isn’t really listening because he continually tells me not to read the comments or to not listen to people who I don’t know )

Truth.

But I feel like I need to respond but since I refuse to get into banter with people on a parents page I will voice my issues here.

Lucky you. 

I have two children.

Night and day. (Aka oldest and youngest )

I am one of two children.

We are also night and day. 

You may be the night to your day sibling also.

Or maybe you birthed night and day (or maybe you have an afternoon kid thrown in there)

You get my point.

Square pegs don’t fit into round holes and last I heard; not all of us are round pegs.

There is no right path.

There is no “should” (except when stopping at a red light. You really should do this)(actually it’s required)

There is no what works for me will totally work for you. 

Because I’m not you and you’re not me.

This is soooo simple! 

Your kid who was dying to go to the prom may not want to go to the prom like her bestie.

And your neighbor who went to an Ivy League school is not like your kid who has learning disabilities.

Your kid wants to go to trade school. Hooray! Do you know how much my plumber charges an hour?! 

Every day I read about how all of these people are worried about their 4.5 gpa child with 17 AP classes who didn’t get into his top choice. 

(Ok- not every day. But every other day for sure) 

Do you know why they didn’t get in?

 Because there are a trillion other kids across the country (and beyond) eyeing for that same spot. 

Yes. Your round peg didn’t fit into his round hole even though he checked all the boxes. He started his own non profit and volunteered in the soup kitchen and taught Spanish to the elementary school kids. 

I’ve written about this before and I’m sure I will again - because it is insane to me!!!!!! (Of course the over use of exclamation points was needed)

You know what my kid is doing right now? 

Watching Impractical Jokers. 

And it’s fine.

It’s fine because he is 17 and on school vacation and wants to be a teenaged kid watching idiotic shows.

He will find a college that works for him.

Or a path that works for him.

As will my other kid.

Whose path will look different.

As my path looked different than my sibling.

And how your path was different.

It’s fine. 

Do not follow the straight line when you have opportunities to turn. 

Stand out.

Or don’t if it’s not your thing. 

Start your own business.

Or work for one.

Eat vanilla ice cream even if your friends say that’s boring. 

You are not them.

You are you.

And I couldn’t think of anyone more wonderful to be .