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  Days after I posted my 5 year “Im off my cancer meds” cancerversary post a friend told me she; is not so fortunate. We met during our diagnoses and bonded over chemo fatigue and radiation burns; but ended up forming a friendship further than cancer. She told me to “treasure your beautiful life”.  I’ve been reminded of this so many times since having cancer. I preach it daily. I try to be zen (I fail. Quite often ) I  like to soak up the sun (literally and figuratively) I try not to get consumed in the minutiae I try to remind myself my kids will figure themselves out Chips will fall into place  (I kid myself a lot because I come from generations of worriers and it’s definitely something that is a hard thing to break free of) But this This hit home And I’m taking it to heart. It sounds all flowers and rainbows I know.  I mean, we can’t go walking around every moment basking in what we have  I’m not telling you to be sitting at the dentist and be all thankf...

Speaking for parents of teenagers everywhere : 1) Scissors, tape dispensers, water bottles, drinking glasses- they all have homes. We know you are smart enough to know this because you were able to figure out how to find them in the first place.  Perhaps you could put them back to their resting places when you’re finished so that the rest of us would know where to find them when we need to and wouldn’t have to go looking in places like; hypothetically, a teenagers room. 2) We see you throwing away your large Dunkin’s Iced Mocha Coffee with 3 sugars into the garbage. Thanks for picking it up after it fell and squishing it back into the garbage can (because it clearly is overflowing).  That was really good of you. Maybe next time you could spend 45 extra seconds to take out said garbage bag and replace it with a new one (which is literally in the drawer above). We know you know how to do this because you watched your Mother do it 5 minutes later . And 15,000 times prior. 3) We l...

  Unless you’re living under a rock (which honestly I couldn’t fault you for;  because at some point or another we all have probably wanted to be there the last two years ) you know that Bob Saget passed away last week.  I definitely was a watcher of FULL HOUSE (but not FULLER because Candace Cameron Bure has gotten a bit too big for her britches for my taste) but sure, I loved Danny Tanner as much as the next person.  I wasn’t a follower of his stand up (although am told he was pretty funny) but the whole point of todays post is this: Every article or news clip I’ve read or heard or watched has all had the same meaning-  you knew you were loved by Bob because he told you constantly.  Google the you tube video of John Mayer (yea, John Mayer, apparently a close friend of Bob’s- odd match up, right?) but John and Comedian Jeff Ross pick up his car from the airport and talk about what he meant to them.  John describes beautifully how each person felt like...

  My cancerversary was last month. It was a big one. 5 years. 5 years since being rediagnosed. So technically I guess I have two cancerversaries but I only go with this one because, seriously, who wants one let alone two?  So yup Dec 24th,2016- breast cancer surgeon extraordinaire called me to confirm what I already knew.  Cancer was back. In the breast that wasn’t there. Today, I drove into Boston on one of the coldest days known to man kind (a slight exaggeration but not that far off because they even closed the schools in the city today), for my annual oncology check up. I hand sanitizer, changed out my masked (per hospital protocol), waited for the dreaded weigh in, and then begged to get off cancer meds 8 months early.  And guess what ? He said yes!  It actually wasn’t much of a beg because apparently 8 months early after being on them for 4 years 4 months isn’t that big a deal in cancer world.  And guess what else?  No more yearly breast MRI need...

  Todays rant. It’s been almost 24 months since my mother died. Altho she was almost 91, her death certificate lists cause of death as:covid 19. On April 13, 2020 -the day she died, there were approximately 24,000 deaths.  As of today;,we are at 836k (this is just in the US). Im done with it all. I imagine; like you, are tired of hearing the word covid. Our kids have been wearing masks to school for close to two years. Anti vaxxers are saying “told you so” to the vaxxers , who are getting breakthrough cases of covid. We are a country divided. Hospitals aren't much better  off today than they were in 2020. Elective surgeries are being postponed again. Mammmograms and colonoscopies are being put off. Nurses and doctors are beyond exhausted. Supermarket shelves are empty again. Teachers are scared to go to school. Parents are wanting their kids in school. Parents are wanting their kids at home. Parents are feeling for the teachers. Parents are yelling at the teachers. It’s g...