This subject has been brought up a lot lately. With my personal friendships, with other friends friendships, with my children making friends.
According to Wikipedia Friendship is described as this:
Friendship is the mutually cooperative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as the exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for some, the practical execution of friendship is little more than the trust that someone will not harm them.
I like to consider myself a good friend. I think sometimes I'm pretty fun to be around, I'm a great listener (Although I do find myself interrupting sometimes-maybe bc I like to hear myself talk?? Clearly it's because I have something oh so important to say) Yet, I remember my Mom once telling me if you have one or two "dear" friends in life, consider yourself fortunate. You know those friends. The ones that no matter what, I mean NO MATTER WHAT, they are there for you. They come to your aide in times of crises not just when it's a time of convenience. They laugh with you and cry with you. Whenever and for whatever reason.
So I feel completely blessed to have a few of those friends. Ones that I know I can depend on..always.
Friendships come and go. And that's okay. It's a part of life. A part of growing up. Many that we were once "bff's" with in HS or College are now not as close. No grudges are held. Everyone is still friendly it's just our paths went separate ways. Facebook has helped many reconnect once again and it's been fun. It's great to have an array of friendships but I'm talking now about the nearest and dearest.
Unfortunately I've had a few hardships in my adult life. Things that brought on a lot of heartache and tears. I'm a communicator so need to talk about things..often. Sometimes the same things over and over (My husband can attest to this) I learned (although never doubted) about the meaning of true friendship. I have been blessed with amazing,supportive friends. Ones that call just to make sure I'm okay and to treat me to a glass of wine when they can.
My oldest and dearest friend has been my BFF since we were nine years old. We met at camp (oh again with the camp talk??!!) in 1977. Been friends ever since. We've never ever lived in the same city or same area code for that matter. Since 1985 we have never lived in the same state. Our friendship is a true testament to the fact that you dont need to hang out all the time to keep a friendship going. In fact, maybe that's one of the reasons we remain so close. We remain partial to what's going on in our daily lives because we aren't enmeshed in it on a day to day basis. We have history so we understand each other.
So today my post is dedicated to my amazing friends out there. All of you. My near and dear ones, my new ones, the ones who always make me laugh, who email me to check in on how I'm doing, the ones I hear from infrequently but I know are my friends none the less, my facebook friends who I've reconnected with..
to quote Bea Arthur (may she rest in peace)
"Thank you for being a friend"
According to Wikipedia Friendship is described as this:
Friendship is the mutually cooperative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as the exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for some, the practical execution of friendship is little more than the trust that someone will not harm them.
I like to consider myself a good friend. I think sometimes I'm pretty fun to be around, I'm a great listener (Although I do find myself interrupting sometimes-maybe bc I like to hear myself talk?? Clearly it's because I have something oh so important to say) Yet, I remember my Mom once telling me if you have one or two "dear" friends in life, consider yourself fortunate. You know those friends. The ones that no matter what, I mean NO MATTER WHAT, they are there for you. They come to your aide in times of crises not just when it's a time of convenience. They laugh with you and cry with you. Whenever and for whatever reason.
So I feel completely blessed to have a few of those friends. Ones that I know I can depend on..always.
Friendships come and go. And that's okay. It's a part of life. A part of growing up. Many that we were once "bff's" with in HS or College are now not as close. No grudges are held. Everyone is still friendly it's just our paths went separate ways. Facebook has helped many reconnect once again and it's been fun. It's great to have an array of friendships but I'm talking now about the nearest and dearest.
Unfortunately I've had a few hardships in my adult life. Things that brought on a lot of heartache and tears. I'm a communicator so need to talk about things..often. Sometimes the same things over and over (My husband can attest to this) I learned (although never doubted) about the meaning of true friendship. I have been blessed with amazing,supportive friends. Ones that call just to make sure I'm okay and to treat me to a glass of wine when they can.
My oldest and dearest friend has been my BFF since we were nine years old. We met at camp (oh again with the camp talk??!!) in 1977. Been friends ever since. We've never ever lived in the same city or same area code for that matter. Since 1985 we have never lived in the same state. Our friendship is a true testament to the fact that you dont need to hang out all the time to keep a friendship going. In fact, maybe that's one of the reasons we remain so close. We remain partial to what's going on in our daily lives because we aren't enmeshed in it on a day to day basis. We have history so we understand each other.
So today my post is dedicated to my amazing friends out there. All of you. My near and dear ones, my new ones, the ones who always make me laugh, who email me to check in on how I'm doing, the ones I hear from infrequently but I know are my friends none the less, my facebook friends who I've reconnected with..
to quote Bea Arthur (may she rest in peace)
"Thank you for being a friend"
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